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In the Life Coaching Trenches

Ever since that charmer Tony Robbins showed us how entrenched misogyny can be even in what might be widely considered an ‘enlightened’ profession, I have lingering thoughts about the shadow this famous life coach has cast on people doing the work in the coaching trenches. We – yes, I am a life coach – have already accepted how we’re portrayed in entertainment. You can bet that if there is a life coach character in a TV show or movie, that person is going to be flaky and/or the slick, fast-talking type. That character will be the butt of a joke or be exposed as a charlatan. This is nothing like the professional coaches I know. Then, of course, there is the image of coaches who preach from a mountaintop of their own making. Robbins falls in that category. He has helped a lot of people. He’s motivated them to overcome their fears and rethink debilitating thought patterns. He also holds the distinction of being arguably the most famous coach in the world. People see his riches, the arenas he packs, and are drawn to his swagger and presence. He has earned his place in the upper echelon of self-help experts by virtue of all of that. But the Robbins model represents a small fraction of professional coaches. Meanwhile, among the coaches I know (and we’re talking the cream of...

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Awaken the Giant (Misogynist) Within

Anybody remember the scene in Friends where Phoebe’s lovable but dim little brother, Frank, meets Rachel and Monica, says “Whoa” as he gives them the approving once-over, and then asks Joey, Ross and Chandler how they “get anything done around here?” Cue the laugh track. Or maybe not. Apparently there are CEOs in Tony Robbins’ acquaintance who use that very same approach to leadership. Only without the lovable part. At one of those events Robbins holds in whopping arenas and auditoriums that cost upwards of $600 — this one in San Jose in March — he got into a back and forth with a woman named Nanine McCool who expressed that Robbins misunderstands the #MeToo movement. Her opinion was based on this (taken from a YouTube video of the event recorded by a woman named Butterscotch): “If you use the #MeToo movement to try get significance, and certainly by attacking and destroying someone else, you haven’t grown an ounce,” Robbins says. “All you’ve done is basically use a drug called significance to make yourself feel good.” McCool goes on: “You are a leader and an influential man and you are doing a disservice in my opinion to the #MeToo movement.” This, keep in mind, from a woman who laid out some serious cash to be at that event. She’s a fan. “Look at these people and see what is...

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